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Living the Compassionate Life: The Essence of Nonviolent Communication

Feb 19-21, 2016

A three-day retreat led by Robert Gonzales, assisted by Stephen Michael Tumolo. Co-sponsored with Heart-to-Heart, Inc.
9:15am - 5:45pm each day

Private room, $585; Shared room, $550; Commuter $385

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Beyond the basic Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process of expressing and receiving our observations, feelings, needs, and requests, lies the heart and root of compassion for ourselves and others – a living practice Robert Gonzales refers to as “Living Compassion.” You will be introduced to and practice processes that Robert has developed to deepen more self-awareness, self-compassion, and living compassion in relationships. These processes may include:

  • Deepening Awareness of the Beauty of Needs
  • Transforming the Pain of Unmet Needs to the Beauty of Needs
  • Compassionately Embracing/Transforming Core Beliefs
  • Preparing for Authentic Dialogue

Robert’s work points towards the spiritual dimensions of NVC and includes both deeply, transformative inner work as well as intensely practical, in-the-world aspects of inter-personal relationships. This workshop will include demonstrations of integrating compassionate communication and opportunities to practice what is demonstrated in small groups.

This program is intended for those with a grounding in NVC as developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg ( A free introduction to these principles will be offered in the Barn at Pendle Hill on Thursday evening, February 18, from 7:30-9:00 p.m.


Robert Gonzales is one of the most sought-after trainers of NVC in the world. His passion is the spirituality of compassionate communication. He sees compassionate communication both as a process that helps us connect more authentically with ourselves and others, and as a spiritual practice and a way of living. Robert received a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology in 1989. He met Marshall Rosenberg and Nonviolent Communication in 1985, and has been offering Nonviolent Communication training in some form since 1986. His original training is as a licensed psychotherapist.

Robert is one of a team of NVC trainers, the NVC Training Institute, who offer in-depth and continuing NVC training in the United States and Europe.

He has offered Nonviolent Communication training for community colleges, high schools, churches, social workers, psychologists, mediators, teenagers and public groups. He has taught psychology, counseling and communication at Prescott College in Prescott, Arizona. In June 2000, he established the Prescott Center for Nonviolent Communication. In June 2010, he relocated to Portland, Oregon and changed the organization’s name to Center for Living Compassion. In 2006, Robert launched the LIFE Program which is a multi-year, advanced intensive study program designed to deepen and integrate NVC consciousness into everyday life.

Robert is past President of the board of directors for the Center for Nonviolent Communication. He is a certified trainer for the Center for Nonviolent Communication and a trainer at many NVC Intensive International Trainings. He is a former assessor in North America for certifying NVC Trainers.

Stephen Michael TumoloStephen Michael Tumolo studied NVC with Marshall Rosenberg and Robert Gonzales and has been sharing it for over 15 years. He leads Heart-to-Heart, a community organization that empowers people, in and outside of correctional facilities, with skills needed for living increasingly free and creative lives.

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